A recent advice column posted in several newspapers answered a question posed by an uncle who was of the opinion that his 13-year-old niece could benefit from rhinoplasty surgery (also known as a nose job). He had shared this opinion with his brother, the girl’s father, who was, naturally, very upset. The columnist told the questioner in no uncertain terms that expressing this opinion was over the line. However, just because behavior is over the line, does not mean that loved ones will never make inappropriate comments. If you’re considering rhinoplasty, or have been told by a friend or family member that you might want to consider it, there are a few things to consider, the most important of which is that the input of your loved ones, whether positive or negative, should never affect your rhinoplasty decision.
It’s Your Nose, and No One Else’s
First, it’s your nose. Even if your nose looks like someone else’s in the family does not give them the right to dictate what you do with it. Some families are upset when their loved ones consider a nose job, thinking of it as a betrayal to oneself or the family look—in some cases the idea is even considered an insult. While it’s important to treat their concerns with as much sensitivity as possible, the bottom line is that it’s your nose and no one else’s.
Nasal Aesthetics are Tied to Self-Esteem and Identity
The nose is a major part of the facial aesthetics, including facial balance, which is often tied heavily to self-esteem. Backhanded comments about your nose can make you feel worse, and you shouldn’t let others influence how you feel about yourself or influence your cosmetic choices—which is of course easier said than done. If your nose contributes to a lack of self-esteem and confidence, then it’s not a bad idea to consider rhinoplasty. With that said, your nose is also tied to your identity, and you should expect to feel a range of emotions after your procedure.
Rhinoplasty is a Major Decision and Commitment
Though much safer and less invasive than it once was, rhinoplasty is still a major surgery, and choosing to undergo the operation is a big decision. You should never rush into getting a rhinoplasty, and you should do careful research before you make a decision. Rhinoplasty is a big commitment—you’re making permanent changes to your face, and it’s up to you to make sure you choose the right surgeon and care for yourself properly before and after the procedure.
You May Still Be Growing
If you’re a teen who is interested in rhinoplasty, you’re not alone. Many young people have suffered teasing from peers and even pressure from family members to make a change to their nose. However, you may want to wait a bit if you’re considering rhinoplasty, because we do change as we transition from teen to young adult, and you may grow into your features a bit. Your nose stops growing around age 15-17, but that doesn’t mean you are done growing altogether. Even if your parent approves the procedure, think long and hard about getting a rhinoplasty before you move forward.
Peer Pressure Can Lead to Regret
If you’ve noticed pressure from your family (whether subtle or overt) to undergo rhinoplasty (or just as often, to NOT have surgery), this can have a big impact on your final decision. However, a lot of people who choose rhinoplasty because their family or friends think it would be a positive change end up regretting the decision. You should only choose rhinoplasty if you’re doing it for yourself.
Choose a Surgeon Carefully
If you do want to move forward with the process, then it is extremely important that you choose an expert surgeon to perform your rhinoplasty. Nasal surgery is extremely complex, requiring not only knowledge and skill, but a great deal of artistry and finesse to achieve good results. Start your search by doing research and scheduling consultations with promising board certified facial plastic surgeons. These consultations will be essential in picking the surgeon who is right for you.
Dr. Shervin Naderi is a rhinoplasty expert of the highest caliber, often taking on difficult cases and providing patients with beautiful, balanced outcomes. If you would like to speak with a true specialist, call the Naderi Center to schedule a consultation with Dr. Naderi in Herndon, VA (703-481-0002), or Chevy Chase, MD (301-222-2020).